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This page has been "under construction" since 1997, so don't feel bad if you're not on it, and don't expect it to update much.  Fact is, when I first conceived it it was a novel idea, but its purpose has since been supplanted by social networking sites like Facebook and LinkedIn.  The only thing this has that those don't is the ability to say how you know each other in some interesting detail, and the quotes.

Jhim Midgett - "The proper office of a friend is to side with you when you are in the wrong. Nearly anybody will side with you when you are in the right." - Mark Twain. Jhim is a very deep-feeling, talented guy with a potential for greatness. His eclectic interests (and the way he ties them together) makes him a self-made Renaissance man. Not only is he technically savvy, he is a very talented director, actor and artist.

Betsy Hopkins - "Women can form a friendship with a man very well; but to preserve it--to that end a slight physical antipathy must probably help." - Friedrich Nietzche. Betsy and I have been friends since 1996, when we did Merrily We Roll Along together at Clark University. At the time, she was full of angst because she had a knack for developing crushes on gay men. She's the best listener I know, and is one of the most cherished members of my personal cheering section. She is rare in how deeply and how well she cares for her family and friends. Sometimes I wonder how she manages to keep up with us all. And I often wonder why she bothers with someone who gives her so much trouble.

Allen Stering - "Laughter is not at all a bad beginning for a friendship..." - Oscar Wilde. Allen's middle name is Isaac, which in Hebrew means "...and they laughed." Not that Al is a clown--in fact, he's brilliant (he was part of a research team that created a cure for a form of childhood cancer). But he also has a fun-loving side that makes him instantly endearing. He was the assistant director of the first show I did at WPI, and showed off his vast acting talent when the lead fell ill and needed a replacement. He is the only person I know who has actually lived one of my recurring nightmares... and he managed to come out smelling like a star!

Joe Amato - "It is one of the blessings of old friends that you can afford to be stupid with them." - Ralph Waldo Emerson. My friendship with Joe is (was?) based on a lot of things; common pursuits, intellectual similarity, and especially humor. It has been said in the WPI theater community: "If you need two fools, cast Guyette and Amato."  When I was at WPI, Joe was a very important part of my surrogate family. Sometimes I wonder if I got more out of our friendship than he did. I'm still looking for ways to repay him for all of the good times we had together.

Steve Siegmund - "Your friend is the man who knows all about you, and still likes you." - Elbert Hubbard. My friendship with Steve got off to a rather strange start: I called him out in a rainstorm to reject his first submission to the New Voices festival. Then I cast him as a gay man who gets shot and killed in Sister Mary Ignatius Explains It All For You. I wouldn't take back a single moment.

Ken Danila - "To cement a new friendship, especially between foreigners or persons of a different social world, a spark with which both were secretly charged must fly from person to person, and cut across the accidents of place and time." - George Santayana. In Ken's case the "spark" was theater. Ken and I acted together in Early One Evening at the Rainbow Bar & Grille, and I was determined once I saw him act that I was going to make him work for me at some point. When I had to find someone to play the title role in Sister Mary Ignatius Explains It All For You, he really was the only man (yes, man) for the job. Boy, did I make him work. Boy, was he great.

Russ Bonanno - "My best friend is the man who in wishing me well wishes it for my sake." - Aristotle. Russ is a nurturer in the truest sense of the word: he is an educator, counselor, and a great friend. He is one of the most generous, caring, and knowledgeable people I know. I've known him since my freshman year in college... and since then I don't think our friendship has stayed the same for more than a few months at a time.

Tara Halwes - "If a man should importune me to give a reason why I loved him, I find it could no otherwise be expressed, than by making answer: because it was he, because it was I." - Michel de Montaigne. The genders have changed, but the ideas remain the same. Tara is one of those what-you-see-is-what-you-get kind of people, who manages to brighten a room just by being in it. She has a unique gift: when she hugs you, you experience the most profound and indisputable notion that you are the most special and important person in the world. No wonder so many people adore her.

Ryan Smart - "A single conversation across the table with a wise man is better than ten years' mere study of books." - Henry Wadsworth Longfellow. Apparently wisdom runs in Ryan's family. He has been a mentor for me since we met, which works out well since our lives seem to be following impressionistically similar paths. He is one of a handful of people who come to mind when I need unbiased opinions or (gasp!) advice. How fortunate for me that he is also a great friend!

Evan Thomas - "A man that hath friends must show himself friendly; and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother." - Proverbs xviii.24.  One friend found and off the "where are you?" list below.  Evan and I were fast friends in grammer school and junior high, then got split by geographic realities.  We reconnected a couple years ago and we've once again grown close, as it seems we've grown in parallel since we were separated.  Evan's living in Los Angeles now, so he's nearby, and is a tremendous friend.

Shawn Saucier - Another one I managed to make contact with by finding his sister, Tisa (thanks, Tisa!).  We're not in touch often, but it's good to know I know how to find him if I had to.

Tracey Krasnow - Tracey and I managed to get back in touch a couple years ago, and we both acknowledged we're bad at staying in touch.  It's tough when you don't live near one another and can't hang out or visit.  But it was still great to catch up on what's happening in his life.

Rob Pestell - "There is in my nature, methinks, a singular yearning toward all wildness" - Henry David Thoreau.  Rob is my muse of freedom, a stalwart friend, wise and crazy in equal measure, and beloved by my cats and me.  We met online, and although we only spent a year or so within reasonable travel distance of one another, I miss him terribly.

Virginia Wilson - Friend from high school; I was a sax, she was a flute, we got along great, and we lost track of each other at some point.  Then she found me on Facebook!  Hooray!

There are also some friends from pre-college days I've been looking for, and would love to hear from (and if you're not on this list it doesn't mean I wouldn't love to hear from you, too):

  • Steve Michaud
  • Bob Tremblay - Ever since I ran into you at the Pops concert a couple of years ago I've been wishing you'd give my folks a call and let them know where you're living and what you're up to. Searches on the web for "Music" and your name haven't turned up anything conclusive.  Do write.
  • David Loranger - I hear you left Memorial. I have no idea what the Paraphernalia did when you left, and I'd like to know how you're doing.
  • Marc Adams - I haven't had a chance to pop into Memorial for a visit... and since Mr. M. died I've been reluctant to go. That and I'm deathly afraid you won't remember who I am if I do.
  • Jim Crawford - Calc in college was a breeze... and I finally know the answer to the question "why is the integral equal to the area under the curve?" which you artfully dodged in late '90. I've even used Calculus to describe philosophy... you'd be proud.
  • Pat Andruchuk - That canoe tipover still goes on record as the closest I have ever come to death, and certainly it was the coldest I've ever been. It made a freezing cold shower in Wales palatable!
  • Pat Hart - You'd probably be glad to know I'm still acting... but if you've searched through my pages, you probably already know that.
  • Dan Bourgeois

And more (of those who don't show up in my social networking pages):

Tung Ng, Jack Henri, John Betz, Steve Lombardo, Christina and Jim White, Tom Russell, Lori Chauvette, Doug Thompson, Ruth Cooper, Chad Cummings, K.T. Daly, Catherine Darensbourg, Keith Franklin, John Minasian, Kathy Journeay, Paula Moravek, Dave Reed, Roy Rubinstein, Chris Talbert, Eric Page, Erica Curran, Dawn Varacchi, Tim McInerney, Katie Horning, Pennie Turgeon, Susan Vick, Eric Truebe, Jeff West, Lorraine Guyette, Frank Guyette, Paula Young, Elizabeth Cote, Bill Cote, Sarah Cote, Cassandra Young, Vera Wingate, Louis Curran, Ralph Maselli, Matt DeFronzo, Doug McCartney, Damian Frank, Leah Abrams, Mark VanDerZee, Anna Matzal, h MacKiernan, Jeff Mullen, Denis Guillette, Moe Khan, Chris Hetherington, Laura Karpman, Shannon Halwes, Swati Sharma, Val Brown, Matt Adwin, Dan Afonso, Dan Martins, Dana Schlosser, Ken Volock, Rob Benevento, Dick Campbell, Todd Dibble, Sarah Schlesinger-Dibble, Jonathan Engquist, Ben Huchins, Bill Hartery, George Piehl, Jed Holland, Adam Lantheaume, Ben Lipchak, John Macey, Jeremy Medicus, Steve Richardson, Matt Murphy, Jeff Rocha, Anne and Karl Rookey, Amy Sprowles, Keith Strang

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